Prince Proves It Again- ANOTHERLOVE Video

You can count on Prince for some hurtful love songs.

Although this is apparently a cover, I was unaware of the original, but this sounds so much like Prince; The ballad part takes a turn and hits the angry part of a breakup.
Just enjoy, and share it:



I got heavily into Prince in College, probably because of all of his insights on sex. Afterwards he kinda stopped all of that after losing his baby, and becoming more and more Jehovah's Witnessed.

Religion does that.

But maybe he's back now.

I'm just glad that I can spend all day at home and listen to the new stuff!

Enjoy!

People With Guns Kill People

People with guns kill people.

Depending on your point of view, that's either a pro-gun or anti-gun statement.

And it may color your view on how we should deal with the problem

of gun violence and killing in general in our country.

The entire debate seems to be about which way we can feel the most safe.

Some people say that if guns aren't allowed at all,

then we can feel safer because no one will have a gun.

Of course, there are illegal guns everywhere, and so the

"bad guys" end up with them whether they are legal or not.

Other people say that when everyone has a gun, we can feel safer

because the "good guys" will be able to stop the "bad guys" 

because he (not she so much) won't be as invincible.

And finally, some people say that only Law enforcement should have guns,

which is a kind of half-measure because it obviously makes guns more available,

but only for people who are sworn to be "good guys".

This makes them feel safer.

Whichever way makes you feel safest is the way you might look at a solution.

But let me question that assumption.

That assumption that your feelings about safety are the goal.

Maybe your feelings about which is safest shouldn't be what we create our laws around.

Maybe instead of looking at things in a "good" and "bad" or

"right" and "wrong" way, we can look at them in a

"Which way Works best, depending on what we're trying to accomplish" way.

You see, if what you're trying to accomplish is a "feeling of safety",

then any or all of these sound like good solutions.

But if instead of relying on your "feelings of safety",

maybe we should be trying to accomplish something else.

The anti-gun people feel safer because they think that less guns

means it's less likely that they'll be shot by one, and yet,

one madman with some armor and a few guns can kill an entire school

full of children without anyone to stop him.

The pro-gun people feel safer with a gun on their hip because they know

that if someone enters a theatre to do harm, that they can stand their ground,

and shoot first. But of course with guns on everyone's hips, someone's fears

can turn a child with skittles and a hoodie into a dangerous thug who must be shot.

So, if we're trying to accomplish a "feeling of safety", we can see that both sides

of the argument are totally "right". They both accomplish their objectives

(feeling safer) with their solution.

So, what about if our goal- that thing we're trying to accomplish- isn't a "feeling" at all?

What if instead what we chose to accomplish with our laws was... 

LESS GUN-RELATED DEATHS.

Less by "bad guys", less by "good guys", less by "accident".

How could we accomplish LESS GUN-RELATED DEATHS?

Can we look at an analogy to find our solution?

What if we wanted to accomplish LESS ABORTIONS.

That's right- I'm going there.

If what we wanted to accomplish were LESS ABORTIONS,

what would be the best way to accomplish that?

Would it be to outlaw it?

Would it be to kill any woman who tried?
Would it be to hand out contraception everywhere and anywhere?
Would it be "morning after" pills for every woman every morning?

Actually, no.

The best way to achieve LESS ABORTIONS would be to have ZERO PREGNANCIES.

Right?

You can't have an abortion without a pregnancy!

So- if what we're trying to accomplish is LESS GUN-RELATED DEATHS,

it seems that the only logical, unemotional, conclusion would be.

NO GUNS.

Can we ensure guns aren't made? Nope.

Can we ensure that the "bad guys" wouldn't get one? Nope.

Can we ensure that a madman wouldn't get illegal guns and kill a school full of kids?
Nope- just like we didn't before.

But- would disallowing them altogether make those things much harder?
Yes.

Would the economy around guns take a nose-dive?

Yes.

Would we accomplish LESS GUN-RELATED DEATHS?

Yes.

Is there proof? Yes- look at the countries that have outlawed them. 

Don't wait for me to tell you- look it up yourself.

I started this by saying that "People with guns kill people."

So, who's to blame? The guns? The People?

And what should we do about it?

Ask another question:

What are you trying to accomplish with your answer?

I had a good idea #JarOfChange

So, I got home a little buzzed after having a few beers while seeing a Gotham City Improv show,
and looked at the jar of change I had on my table. I had a Gemini Conversation:

John: I gotta go convert this to cash

Bones:  You should donate it

John: That's a good idea

Bones: Yeah, but what if you made it fun?

John: Oh, like a game?

Bones: Yeah, we like games!

John: Ok, so what game?

Bones: Oh! I know- let's get other people to guess hw much is in there, and then who ever is closest gets us to donate the money to their charity!

John: Damn, you ARE brilliant!

Bones: I told you!

So, I posted it on Instagram and  Facebook:

So, after a few days, I closed the guessing.
There were like 25 guesses (I expected a lot more people to play)
and that's when I thought it might be a good idea for other people to do.

Anyway, we went to the bank:

So, the winner for the first "Jar Of Change" is Jenny Lando, and we donated to Newtown Action Alliance- http://www.NewtownAction.org

But then I was like "Hey- can this get bigger?"

Like what if I get the site "JarOfChange.org" and I get other people to do the same?
Maybe I can make it a fun betting sort of thing, where everyone who guesses promises to pay up to the winners charity? Or just for the heck of it.... Maybe more to come, who knows?

What I Learned With Mike Dillard's Money

I have waited long enough.

I have been wanting to tell people about this experience for a while, but Mike Dillard and Curt Maly kept saying that we should do it "sometime".

Well, I hate waiting, so I wrote it out.

I think they might get mad, but I hope not:

I wrote an 18-page report detailing the story of how I won Mike Dillard's Coaching program contest, and $1,000 of his money to test my online business.

I was super excited because along with the money came a special ad campaign created by Curt Maly, the newest facebook advertising Guru.

I learned a ton from him, but my business didn't make me a millionaire like I thought it would.

So, here's the full story:

Seth Godin Asks ME a Question

Ok, so he didn't ask me directly, but I love to read this guys books.

And I also read his blog, which he writes EVERYDAY.
Yup, Saturdays and Sundays too.

And today, he wrote something pretty much about what's on my mind these days.

I have been thinking about what kind of performing I want to do now, and basically "What's Next" as the year comes to a close. Here is what he wrote:

What's next?

What does a good day look like? A good week?

Who do you want to work with?

Who are you trying to please?

What sort of feedback brings you down?

What’s your tolerance for being misunderstood? By whom?

Is it about process or projects?

Which part of the project makes you happy?

At the end of the project, what would you like in return?

What diminishes the work?

How high do the stakes need to be?

How close to the edge do you need to dance? Risk? Resources? Failure?

What will you take? What will you give? Who will you connect?

How much freedom will you sacrifice to get what you want? How much commitment will you promise?

What are you measuring? Smiles, comments, traffic, cash, media response, friends, peers, insiders, outsiders?

Will they miss you when you're done with this?

Get on his Email list- he constantly challenges with new ideas, and perspectives!

Oh, and get his books too- TRIBES is fantastic!

When is the right time to potty train your baby? You might be surprised!

I have a 4 month old, and wow- I can't believe I'll be changing diapers for 2 more years!
Just for the heck of it, I went looking for a way to potty train earlier.

I know, 4 months is too soon, but still...

I found this: START POTTY TRAINING

Here's what I learned...

I dunno if it's too early to potty train my baby, but I figure if I learn now, when the time comes, it'll go easy!

Click here for the Videos- START POTTY TRAINING

If you want some more parenting tips and tricks that have saved my life, marriage and bank account, then enter your info here:

How To Train Your Dragon (To Be A Racist) "2"

I just watched Dreamwork's "How To Be A Dragon 2" and boy am I racist.

See, the sequel is about how the peaceful Vikings and their pet Dragons are being threatened to wage war with another ex-viking from long ago.

Y'know, the black viking.

The one with Dreadlocks.

Voiced by the hardly-intelligible-to-begin-with Djimon Hounsou doing a sort of african-nordic-scottish accent.

"Well, at least there's a black guy playing him!" you say; "I mean, if there were no black people in this movie about Vikings, then you'd be marching and chanting about equal opportunity and affirmative action!"

"We had America Ferrera voicing a major part, isn't that enough?"

I keep using the word "voicing" so that you realize how ridiculous it is that in this movie there really is not only ONE black guy on screen, he is also the only one voicing himself- THE BAD GUY.

So, if you're wondering why it seems we can't get justice when black kids get killed, just have a movie night and explain to your kids that this dreadlocked foreigner HAD to be killed because he was trying to conquer those oh-so peaceful VIKINGS.

DREAMWORKS FAIL.